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Pelvic Floor — Start at Home

Most "Kegel exercises" are done wrong — and that's why they don't work. A short navigator from a certified pelvic floor physiotherapist's point of view: technique first, then a daily routine, then a checklist of when home exercises aren't enough.

Most women "do Kegels" wrong. Three mistakes show up in 80% of cases:

  1. 1.Tightening glutes and abs instead of the pelvic floor.
  2. 2.Holding breath — the diaphragm shuts down.
  3. 3.Tightening "up" without releasing afterward. Muscles get tighter, not stronger. This is one cause of painful sex.
▶ Video 1 · Michelle Kenway (@michellephysio)
How to do Kegel Exercises Correctly — finding the right muscles and the three most common mistakes
Opens YouTube search → select the video by Michelle Kenway
▶ Video 2 · Michelle Kenway (@michellephysio)
Pelvic Floor Breathing — diaphragmatic breathing in sync with the pelvic floor
Opens YouTube search → select the breathing video by Michelle Kenway
I can contract pelvic floor muscles without tightening my glutes or abs.
I can do a contraction while continuing to breathe normally.
I fully release after each contraction — I don't "leave the tension."
▶ Video 3 · Michelle Kenway (@michellephysio)
Pelvic Floor Exercises for Beginners — step-by-step full routine
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▶ Video 4 · Michelle Kenway (@michellephysio)
Pelvic Floor Exercises for Beginners — lying-down version
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▶ Video 5 · Michelle Kenway (@michellephysio)
Standing Kegel Exercises — sitting and standing versions for functional integration
Opens YouTube search → select the standing Kegels video by Michelle Kenway

Eight signals that it's time to see a specialist — not instead of practice, but as the next step on the ladder.

No improvement after 8–12 weeks of regular practice
Consistent effort, no change. The exercises may be correct — but something else needs assessing.
Symptoms are getting worse, not better
Progression in the wrong direction is always a signal to get eyes on it.
Pain during the exercises — any kind
Stop and get assessed. Pain during pelvic floor exercises is not normal and not a sign you're "working hard."
A "something falling out" sensation that's getting stronger or more frequent
Increasing heaviness or pressure — especially by the end of the day — warrants an in-person check.
Leakage becoming more frequent or larger in volume
The pattern is moving in the wrong direction despite consistent practice.
Gas or fecal incontinence
When gas or stool comes out without an urge, at an inappropriate moment, with no way to hold it — this is loss of control over the anal sphincter, not "loud passing wind in an awkward situation." Even rare episodes warrant assessment. Start with a pelvic floor physiotherapist who has experience with the anal sphincter (a sub-specialty within pelvic floor) or a colorectal specialist — ideally both in contact. This is treatable, and for these specialists it's a standard conversation.
Pain during sex persists or has appeared since starting exercises
New or continuing pain during sex is not a side effect of correct pelvic floor work.
Skip home practice — go straight to in-person if any of these apply
Pregnancy, or postpartum within 6 months. Don't practice from a video — a specialist assesses what your body specifically needs right now.
Moderate or severe prolapse. Home exercises without guidance can worsen it.
Post-surgery (any gynecologic surgery). Clearance and protocol from a specialist first.
Endometriosis with pelvic pain. Requires a specialist who works with the full picture.
Chronic pelvic pain. Exercises can be part of treatment — but under guidance, not from a screen.
Vulvodynia. Needs a trained pelvic floor physiotherapist, not a general Kegel routine.
History of sexual trauma. Exercises can trigger. This needs a person, not a screen.
If there's no specific specialization in your country, look for a physiotherapist with experience in women's pelvic health. The key marker: a specialist should offer internal examination (manual assessment of muscle tone) — that's the gold standard.
No specialist nearby? Telehealth options: Origin or Hinge Health (US/CA, often covered by insurance), Squeezy app (UK, NHS-affiliated), The Pelvic Studio (AU).